| The old man 22:30 - Jun 17 with 15954 views | BlackCrowe |
Sitting here now with the old man, whose life will pass any time between now at the next few days. Proud strong man, 95, overflowing with good stuff and achievement.
Took me to my first QPR game (midweek v.Ipswich 1-0 Eastoe) even though he had no interest in the game.
Quite hard really. |  |
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| The old man on 22:33 - Jun 17 with 6642 views | kensalriser |
Losing your Dad is a tough one, but who could ask for more than 95 years. Celebrate his life. |  |
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| The old man on 22:33 - Jun 17 with 6635 views | MrSheen |
Good luck and all the best Nic. He’s given you a lot, you’re a lucky man.
PS So is he, I imagine. [Post edited 17 Jun 2021 22:35]
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| The old man on 22:45 - Jun 17 with 6580 views | Konk |
I hope your Dad's comfortable, and I'm sure it's a huge comfort for him that you're there with him towards the end. Impossibly sad, and perhaps not much consolation at the moment, but I guess you're fortunate to have had him in your life for so long. 95 is a great age. Take care of yourself. |  |
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| The old man on 22:45 - Jun 17 with 6573 views | flynnbo |
Enjoy the time you have left with him. He sounds a lovely fella. Stay strong. |  | | |
| The old man on 22:46 - Jun 17 with 6567 views | BrianMcCarthy |
My love to you both and to your family.
Keep chatting away, it'll harm no-one and might help you both x. |  |
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| The old man on 23:03 - Jun 17 with 6507 views | MoonshineSteve |
Sorry mate. |  |
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| The old man on 23:06 - Jun 17 with 6494 views | ted_hendrix |
Difficult time BC.
'Sons Are Proud Of Their Father' |  |
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| The old man on 23:09 - Jun 17 with 6478 views | bosh67 |
Sending much love to you and the family. Be strong and keep the faith. |  |
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| The old man on 23:13 - Jun 17 with 6452 views | CroydonCaptJack |
Sorry to hear that mate. |  | | |
| The old man on 23:20 - Jun 17 with 6431 views | dmm |
My heart goes out to you, and to your dad. I lost my father over 20 years ago. It's painful. Love and pain are often closer than we think. |  | | |
| The old man on 23:28 - Jun 17 with 6406 views | nix |
Really tough BC.
How lovely to have had a dad that you could say such wonderful things about. I'm sure he's equally proud of you.
You're honouring him here and by being with him.
Take care of yourself too. |  | | |
| The old man on 23:34 - Jun 17 with 6386 views | Boston |
I remember being pleasantly surprised / delighted, when I reached 50 and both my and my wife's parents were all alive and active, it was really great for my kids and the other siblings children. They're all gone now but fair innings all round, very fortunate. |  |
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| The old man on 23:37 - Jun 17 with 6368 views | loftboy |
I feel for you, was told back in November my Dad (87) wouldn’t last 48 hours, two weeks later with all his children around his bed and holding his hand( he was in a hospice) he finally succumbed.
My thoughts will be with you and your family this weekend. |  |
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| The old man on 23:38 - Jun 17 with 6373 views | stowmarketrange |
Sorry to hear that news mate.As others have said,take comfort in the fact that you will be there for each other when the time comes.I was lucky enough to be there for my dads last few hours in 1994.Unfortunately I wasn’t there for when my mum passed away,but I had to tell the paramedics by phone to not attempt to resuscitate her as it wasn’t what she wanted,but I think she didn’t want to die alone either.
Enjoy the last few days with your dad chatting about all the things you ever wanted to chat about but never got around to saying.We should all be surrounded by our families in our last moments,but it isn’t always possible.
Best wishes to you and your family in the coming days,weeks and months. |  | | |
| The old man on 23:39 - Jun 17 with 6368 views | Myke |
| The old man on 22:46 - Jun 17 by BrianMcCarthy |
My love to you both and to your family.
Keep chatting away, it'll harm no-one and might help you both x. |
This is so true. My father died in March 2014, but for most of the previous year he didn't know anyone. He was confused and afraid and it was difficult to watch. I sat with him for several hours a day, usually listening to is nonsensical giving out about imaginary things that were annoying him.
He was a huge Manchester United fan having lived ( and help rebuild) Manchester post WW11. He was either in OT (or Maine Road after OT was damaged) fort-nightly for the next decade or so. I grew up in an isolated farmhouse in the west of Ireland, in the sixties and Law, Charlton, Best et al were discussed around the table just as much as my family members and neighbours.
Anyway, as I say, little or not recognition or acknowledgement of my presence (or anyone else's) at his bedside throughout 2013. I mentioned in July that Jack Crompton had passed away. My father stopped complaining immediately, a look of lucidity came into his eyes for the first time in months . He made a clawing motion with his hands, 'like a cat', he said, 'like a cat'. He then lay back and fell asleep, with a slight smile on his face. The next day, it was back to the same old rants, but for those few beautiful moments, I had my dad back. So Brian is dead right, every bit of chat is precious.
It sounds like you have had a long and wonderful relationship with your father. This will of course, make the end even harder as we mourn most deeply the ones we love the most, and age is irrelevant. But when all this has passed and you have time to take stock, all these years together will be what will keep you going. I hope you treasure every moment left and then when the time comes your dad slips away peacefully and painlessly. | | | |
| The old man on 23:42 - Jun 17 with 6351 views | LythamR |
Very hard but also an incredibly precious time
Best Wishes |  | | |
| The old man on 00:56 - Jun 18 with 6264 views | BazzaInTheLoft |
All the best to the both of you. |  | | |
| The old man on 01:18 - Jun 18 with 6249 views | numptydumpty |
Good luck to you chap
My dad went into a care home yesterday .
An angry man now but once full of life.
His wife my mum passed last year.
Start to feel less immortal ourselves when parents go to the big football stadium in the sky.
My dad took me first rangers game in 1980.
He was more a rugby man coming from the valleys himself but we have both had passions for many sports and he been a good mate way back when.
I kinda lost my old man already ie he confused and angry. Our family pretty divided but yes treasure the good times.
All best to you |  |
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| The old man on 02:34 - Jun 18 with 6207 views | gr1 |
Feel your pain.
Lost my old man and you never get over it.
Try and focus on the good times. | | | |
| The old man on 05:05 - Jun 18 with 6150 views | essextaxiboy |
Look after yourself over the next few days and weeks . Thinking of you and your dad ... |  | | |
| The old man on 06:51 - Jun 18 with 6065 views | Loftgirl |
In no way do I wish to belittle your sadness, but I envy you. I have no fond memories of my Dad. In fact I hated him from the time I was old enough to form an opinion. When I was 10 years old, he set me up with the kiddie fiddler a few doors down. I spent the rest of his life wishing him dead. I'm 69 now and only recently have I started working out his reasons for doing what he did. He ruined my life, plain and simple.
So treasure your remaining time together. You are very lucky.
PS Despite my forum name, I am male. [Post edited 18 Jun 2021 6:52]
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| The old man on 07:18 - Jun 18 with 6006 views | stevec |
Thank your dad for giving you the unmatchable life lesson that is QPR. |  | | |
| The old man on 07:52 - Jun 18 with 5952 views | kropotkin41 |
Thinking of you and your dad. With family and a hand held is about as good a way to go as I can imagine. |  |
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| The old man on 08:12 - Jun 18 with 5908 views | PinnerPaul |
| The old man on 07:52 - Jun 18 by kropotkin41 |
Thinking of you and your dad. With family and a hand held is about as good a way to go as I can imagine. |
Can't think of anything better to write than that. | | | |
| The old man on 08:22 - Jun 18 with 5889 views | TacticalR |
Best wishes to you and your dad BlackCrowe. |  |
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