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Rio 11:19 - Mar 29 with 8249 views

Did anyone watch the BBC programme last night? I have never been a fan to be honest but have to say he really went up in my opinion after watching him last night. Let's be totally honest he was a disaster signing for us but we (the fans) had no idea what was going on for him during that season.

I like the fact he kept his council and the family kept it private which is exactly the way these things should be handled. Some other people shown as well who have lost loved ones at a young age - it must be awful for those poor children to have one of their parents taken away in tragic circumstances.

Personally - I wish him (and those other family's) all the very best for the future.

PS Great to see how well Darren Clark has done since his dark days - mind you think it is now close on 10 years ago.

Rio on 11:28 - Mar 29 with 6174 views

DWQPR

Caught about half an hour of it and it seems that the illness of his wife was around the time that we played West Ham away, when quite frankly he was bloody awful, but now, very understandably so. An awful time for him, but it was good to see that at the end of the programme he felt he was at last ready to seek help. I hope that the future is good for him.

In his youth he was a regular down at LR along with Anton, so in my view that made him a fellow R.

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Rio on 11:36 - Mar 29 with 6145 views

paulparker

why does it take a celeb dealing with grief to warrant a documentary? Men and women all over the country are dealing with the loss of loved ones to cancer, etc, and without the financial security Rio enjoys. Their stories are never made public, so why is Rio's worthy of an hour of primetime?
I feel sorry for his kids more than him , losing a mum must be terrible for those little uns,
il get pelters for this from the normal mob but I really don't buy the grieving saintly widow thing from him, how many "alleged" affairs did he have ?

And Bowles is onside, Swinburne has come rushing out of his goal , what can Bowles do here , onto the left foot no, on to the right foot That’s there that’s two, and that’s Bowles Brian Moore

Rio on 11:44 - Mar 29 with 6123 views

stowmarketrange

My daughter's U15 team played a match on Sunday and one of our better players played pretty poorly during the 1st half and was generally disinterested and just walking around.Our manager was telling her to get involved more or he'd take her off at ht.
Her dad,who was referee for the day told us at ht that it was her 1st Mother's Day since she lost her mum.She is just 14 or maybe even 13 because she plays up a year.
Nobody knew about it apart from her dad.Not even her teammates.
Imagine how bad we felt for having a go at her for her 1st half performance?And she played a blinder in the 2nd half,but they still lost 3-5.

Rio on 11:47 - Mar 29 with 6109 views

derbyhoop

Sorry PP that's unworthy. If Rio wasn't well known then the program would never have been made.
With hindsight, it is far easier to understand why his move to us was such a disaster. The things he had to deal with behind the scenes would have prevented anybody from concentrating on the day job. I thought the program was very sensitively handled and the contributions from others in a similar position to Rio illustrated how different people cope with the various stages of grief. Being a wealthy, ex-footballer doesn't shield you from the heartaches.

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Rio on 11:55 - Mar 29 with 6078 views

Antti_Heinola

Rio on 11:36 - Mar 29 by paulparker

Class shining through as usual.

Bare bones.

Rio on 12:05 - Mar 29 with 6041 views

paulparker

Rio on 11:47 - Mar 29 by derbyhoop

Disagree , more than enough inspirational people out there to make a programme about if the BBC are that shallow they need an overrated footballer to get a message across about grief then that shows them up for the broadcasters they are
my mate has 2 kids and lost his missus in a car crash that was 5 years ago, he hasn't even looked at another woman since, he has 2 jobs and does everything for his kids
to me that's more inspirational than the likes of rio and Clarke
oh and as for Darren Clarke his wife wasn't even dead for a 3 months before he got with one of her friends what does that say about him
like I say Its terrible for Ferdinand's children to grow up with out a mum but I cant be the only one uncomfortable watching Rio being the grieving widow

And Bowles is onside, Swinburne has come rushing out of his goal , what can Bowles do here , onto the left foot no, on to the right foot That’s there that’s two, and that’s Bowles Brian Moore

Rio on 12:07 - Mar 29 with 6022 views

Brightonhoop

Rio on 11:36 - Mar 29 by paulparker

You deserve pelters for that and if you dont know why then there's no hope for you PP.

I guess it was made because he was in the public eye, so there was a public interest, and it made for good telly albeit a bit voyueristic for my liking. Which I guess what good telly is about. I found myself at times wondering if Terry was watching it.

I think he's doing a sterling job for his children trying to get it right,seeking guidance, so they dont have problems in the future.

If only we could live perfect, unblamable lives like yourself PP. Cant help thinking you've either taken leave of your senses for such a bitter, miserable post or you're a WUM. I knew of all the MB's this one would find fault and slag him off, my only surprise is that's taken until now,several days later.

Rio on 12:16 - Mar 29 with 5987 views

Phildo

I found it moving and not a subject that is often covered. It was quite discreet about his kids, and the bit where he broke down because he revealed he did not know how his sons were feeling was powerful stuff.

Some of the other people were inspirational- the bloke who lost his wife- eventually remarried and then lost a child and kept going through all that.

Also his own inability to communicate coming from a Dad who left him and explained nothing. His Dad looked a bit like Les - i think they were some sort of cousins?

Rio on 12:22 - Mar 29 with 5964 views

paulparker

Rio on 12:07 - Mar 29 by Brightonhoop

that's good coming form you about being a WUM , the words pot kettle black spring to mind

as ive said in a reasonably argued post that there are plenty of people who deserve a programme made about them who are more than inspirational
if I was Rio's father in law I would find the whole thing a bit uneasy considering his alleged affairs but that's just me , perhaps im from a different world where staying faithful to your partner for life is not the done thing anymore
not doubting his parental skills whatsoever good for him that he is a good dad
I just have an opinion different to you about how he comes across considering his history
what is typical of this MB & you is that the hysteria levels go through the roof to a post that goes against the general grain , no wonder hardly anyone posts on here anymore

And Bowles is onside, Swinburne has come rushing out of his goal , what can Bowles do here , onto the left foot no, on to the right foot That’s there that’s two, and that’s Bowles Brian Moore

Rio on 12:25 - Mar 29 with 5945 views

robith

That seems really unnecessarily mean and unkind.

Grief isn't a zero sum game

Rio on 12:27 - Mar 29 with 5932 views

Brightonhoop

Rio on 12:22 - Mar 29 by paulparker

O that makes it ok then. Judging a bloke no doubt you've not met, know nothing of but unfounded rumour and slur. Were you present when the c0ck went in? Did she want it?

It's becoz he is black init.

Rio on 12:31 - Mar 29 with 5914 views

paulparker

Rio on 12:27 - Mar 29 by Brightonhoop
O that makes it ok then. Judging a bloke no doubt you've not met, know nothing of but unfounded rumour and slur. Were you present when the c0ck went in? Did she want it? It's becoz he is black init.

you really are an A1 prize kunt arnt you

And Bowles is onside, Swinburne has come rushing out of his goal , what can Bowles do here , onto the left foot no, on to the right foot That’s there that’s two, and that’s Bowles Brian Moore

Rio on 12:34 - Mar 29 with 5891 views

Brightonhoop

Rio on 12:31 - Mar 29 by paulparker
you really are an A1 prize kunt arnt you

Coming from you knt chops is comedy gold.

Rio on 12:35 - Mar 29 with 5884 views

QPR_Jim

Rio on 12:22 - Mar 29 by paulparker

As amazing and inspirational as your mate is, do you think anyone would tune in to watch it? If the BBC went around making documentaries about people that nobody wanted to watch would that be OK with that of would you consider it a waste of your licence fee and if nobody watched it would it benefit anyone?

Fact is Rio is in the public eye so people will watch it and it helps to highlight what other people, like your mate, are going through for those who haven't experienced that kind of grief themselves.

I don't think pointing that out in a reasonable manor could be considered "pelters".

Rio on 12:35 - Mar 29 with 5882 views

simmo

Rio on 12:22 - Mar 29 by paulparker

What has alleged infidelity got to do with him losing his wife and the mother of his children to cancer? Are you saying that if he did cheat on his wife at some point that his loss is less felt or important? That it wouldn't impact him and his children in the same way it would anybody else?

I don't see where you're coming from PP, or rather I do but I don't understand why you'd choose to take that stance. It's not a 'he's not a hero as much as this person is', it's his version of what lots of other people have to go through and I am sure plenty of people can identify with it. I'm sure it did a lot more good than harm and I hope it was cathartic for him and others that have known similar loss.

As for this board. It's not 'hysteria' for someone with a modicum of compassion or empathy to see the programme for what it was and commend the man for being brave enough to do it. You wrote something you knew was contrary and controversial and when people question it or reply they are labelled hysterical - that's the definition of a WUM mate.

ask Beavis I get nothing Butthead

Rio on 12:44 - Mar 29 with 5818 views

paulparker

Rio on 12:35 - Mar 29 by QPR_Jim

I don't think pointing that out in a reasonable manor could be considered "pelters".

what so being called a racist isn't getting pelters ? is the standard line thrown on here

disagree that we need a celeb to a programme like this , why cant we have a bloke on the breadline who has 2 jobs to keep his family together whilst dealing with his grief , I wouldn't call that a waste of licence fee , infact why are we so obsessed with celebs and how they live their lives ,

for those who want to shout me down and call me this and that , il say this for the last time

I feel for his kids , I actually think Ferdinand is a good dad , but if I was on a programme having been caught having affairs and playing a grieving widow im sure there would be plenty calling me a hypocrite

And Bowles is onside, Swinburne has come rushing out of his goal , what can Bowles do here , onto the left foot no, on to the right foot That’s there that’s two, and that’s Bowles Brian Moore

Rio on 12:46 - Mar 29 with 5806 views

BlackCrowe

I can't believe some of the posts on LFW aren't spoofs. Sadly i think they are for real.

Thought it was excellent portrayal of emotional grief and struggle in desperately sad circumstances.

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Rio on 12:50 - Mar 29 with 5772 views

paulparker

Rio on 12:34 - Mar 29 by Brightonhoop
Coming from you knt chops is comedy gold.

oh dear someone's had a drink and feeling brave all of a sudden , what's the matter no one contributing to your stray dog collection box today ,

il leave it with your comment
" its because he is black innit "

I mean that just shows you up for the prize bell end you really are ,

And Bowles is onside, Swinburne has come rushing out of his goal , what can Bowles do here , onto the left foot no, on to the right foot That’s there that’s two, and that’s Bowles Brian Moore

Rio on 12:53 - Mar 29 with 5753 views

LongsufferingR

Seems to me the whole point of making a programme like that is to publicise what people go through in those circumstances, how it's the same experience for everybody whatever your other personal circumstances, and most importantly that help is available and to show people how to get it and benefit from it. If the subject is a well known person, the programme is even more effective.

Can't see how it can be criticised on any level tbh.

Rio on 13:02 - Mar 29 with 5673 views

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Rio on 13:03 - Mar 29 with 5662 views

Brightonhoop

Rio on 12:44 - Mar 29 by paulparker

That is because PP, everyone at the Club you've taken your bitter and miserable ot shots at over the last 2 years happens to be black. Whether it's 'Evil Les' 'Tottenham Les' 'Benny, JFH and now Rio. It's odd, uncanny, but I dont know you, same as you dont know Rio, or anyone else at the Club for that matter, so cannot say either way, but it is uncanny and suggests you reserve you bitterist posts such as this one for any black person at the Club with an elevated profile. It's just that. Uncanny. It's consistent, predictable and uncanny. It might not make you a racist, it doesn't in my eyes, but it is uncanny and may lead a rational person to consider that well, a prejudice exists.
It was so predictable it would be you getting stuck into Rio, but even by your standards, I am surprised at your 16th Century Cromwellian moralising on nothing more but hearsay. I dont know why but I think you're better than that. Maybe not today. But generally.

If he did play away, what the fck's it got to do with you or anyone else? No one but he and his Mrs would know the circumstances of such a thing, and usually both parties are to blame, or may be both are at it. It doesn't concern anyone else. What came across was a bloke who loved his Mrs dearly, was struggling to cope with that early and shocking loss, whilst also trying to do right by his children. That's an alright fella to me. Which is why we'll never agree.

Rio on 13:10 - Mar 29 with 5626 views

Brightonhoop

Rio on 12:50 - Mar 29 by paulparker
oh dear someone's had a drink and feeling brave all of a sudden , what's the matter no one contributing to your stray dog collection box today , il leave it with your comment " its because he is black innit " I mean that just shows you up for the prize bell end you really are ,

Classic, know fck all gob off gob shyte. If the cap fits. I never drink before the sun goes down. Clearly you've never posted shyte after a drink, only do so whilst sober.

And the dogs? That's a low shot, but no surprises from you.

That's me out. Well done, looking through the thread you made of loads of mates today.

Rio on 13:18 - Mar 29 with 5578 views

QPR_Jim

Rio on 12:44 - Mar 29 by paulparker

To be fair the exchanges between you and brightonhoop were unfolding while i was typing that so I didn't see them before I posted.

You can disagree all you like with the point about celebs (and I agree that people give them an undue amount of attention) but more people will watch if it's a celebrity and therefore get the issue/cause more coverage.

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Rio on 13:20 - Mar 29 with 5569 views

bosh67

The bottom line is that anyone who loses someone to cancer of any other awful disease deserves sympathy. It appears a lot was going on while Rio was here and it does explain a lot of his performances. But guys, the lad is a QPR fan, stood, sat on the terraces here, so he deserves our respect. He may be hugely wealthy and have a lot of flaws, but he is a human being, not that old, bringing up a young family without their mum and his partner.

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Rio on 13:27 - Mar 29 with 5532 views

paulparker

Rio on 13:10 - Mar 29 by Brightonhoop
Classic, know fck all gob off gob shyte. If the cap fits. I never drink before the sun goes down. Clearly you've never posted shyte after a drink, only do so whilst sober. And the dogs? That's a low shot, but no surprises from you. That's me out. Well done, looking through the thread you made of loads of mates today.

Ha Ha Ha Ha

stop it your comedy gold

BTW how old are you 12 ?

And Bowles is onside, Swinburne has come rushing out of his goal , what can Bowles do here , onto the left foot no, on to the right foot That’s there that’s two, and that’s Bowles Brian Moore

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