| Grooms Speeches 08:19 - Jun 14 with 9704 views | Toast_R |
Any advice?
I hate doing this kind of thing as I'm not much of a public speaker, and infront of 90 odd peoples my ass will be blowing.
I made a start, should I include some one liners, what's the dos and dont's, obviously cheap insults and rude stories are a No? |  | | |  |
| Grooms Speeches on 14:03 - Jun 14 with 1942 views | Metallica_Hoop |
I'd say, I have been practicing and building up to this for ages by watching great orators online for tips on how it should be done...Then launch into an Adolf Hitler@Nuremberg impression.
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| Grooms Speeches on 14:22 - Jun 14 with 1916 views | Monahoop |
Spontaneity and off the cuff is the way to go. Nothing worse than seeing a speech maker looking down at his feet or seeing a piece of sheet paper shaking in his hand as though there is an earth tremor. I kept my wedding speech brief, witty and even told a couple kids at the back of the room to shut up and pay attention. It worked. I've done best man speeches, funeral speeches and work speeches. You have to work your speech to suit the occasion and as someone has mentioned, know the audience.
Go for it. Make the speech and be nervous afterwards. |  |
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| Grooms Speeches on 14:33 - Jun 14 with 1908 views | BklynRanger |
| Grooms Speeches on 08:50 - Jun 14 by WinchestR |
As long as you don't do what I did and get your new sister-in-law's name wrong you will be fine. |
I forgot to thank my mother - it's the gift that keeps on giving  |  | | |
| Grooms Speeches on 14:41 - Jun 14 with 1903 views | Juzzie |
| Grooms Speeches on 14:22 - Jun 14 by Monahoop |
Spontaneity and off the cuff is the way to go. Nothing worse than seeing a speech maker looking down at his feet or seeing a piece of sheet paper shaking in his hand as though there is an earth tremor. I kept my wedding speech brief, witty and even told a couple kids at the back of the room to shut up and pay attention. It worked. I've done best man speeches, funeral speeches and work speeches. You have to work your speech to suit the occasion and as someone has mentioned, know the audience.
Go for it. Make the speech and be nervous afterwards. |
After I did my Best Man's speech and the bride did hers, my mate stood up and started off by saying he's not very good at speeches and hadn't prepared anything and apologised for that. At this point, the guy who had set up the PA tripped over as he was scuttling across and that gave my mate the perfect ice-breaker to have a pop at him (in a nice way). He then whent on to thank all the appropriate people and finished off with thanking his lovely wife.
IMO I think it's best to always thank the bride last as she is the most important person of the day and it has a more lasting memory I think.
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| Grooms Speeches on 14:43 - Jun 14 with 1896 views | simmo |
One word.
Willycopter. |  |
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| Grooms Speeches on 23:45 - Jun 14 with 1863 views | stowmarketrange |
| Grooms Speeches on 13:34 - Jun 14 by GroveR |
First things first - a backhander goes a long way.
Go one way or the other when talking about the missus - and I would go for bigging her up massively as a) it'll make all the other birds moist and b) almost all the other blokes will forgive you being soppy as they'll probably have been or will be in the position one day. For any that are still in doubt you can always give her a swift backhander to assert your position as the alpha male.
My mate said of his wife she was "very nice" - short of saying she's "a bit fúcking average" you can't really go further wrong as nearly every woman at the wedding said to me after (I had to give them all backhanders too, just to keep them in line).
My wife insisted on doing a speech at our wedding. The backhander that earned her is in the bank 9 years later and accruing interest daily.
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It was the same at my wedding.My wife did my speech for me.Trouble is,how do you shut her up?21 years on and she's still talking. |  | | |
| Grooms Speeches on 01:53 - Jun 15 with 1845 views | ballbag |
| Grooms Speeches on 14:43 - Jun 14 by simmo |
One word.
Willycopter. |
This. |  | | |
| Grooms Speeches on 09:32 - Jun 15 with 1831 views | MkPaul |
All I can add and I haven't read the whole thread so may be here already is don't forget to mention he new wife and how wonderful she looks and how lucky you are etc as I forgot to even mention her when I got married, they never forget |  | | |
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| Grooms Speeches on 19:19 - Jun 15 with 1793 views | Neil_SI |
I've taken photos at a lot of weddings over the years, so I've seen a lot of speeches and I'd recommend you do them after the meal, and not before, as from my experience, the ones before do not work as well.
The guests will have food and drink down them, so will be less fidgety and the level of alcohol consumed will relax them, as it will you. If you like a drink, have one, because it will help calm you down and not just for the speeches but even earlier points in the day that a bride or groom are often nervous about.
The best ones I saw were relaxed and sincere, so smile a lot if you can and show your personality. From my perspective I always tell both the bride and groom that there's nothing wrong with being nervous and even showing that, because it heightens the emotion of the day and adds to it, especially from a photographic point of view and nobody really wants to come across as wooden.
Go with the flow, you'll be alright. To be honest, I'm surprised at the level of preparation some are suggesting on here, because I never felt it was that critical myself from what I've observed, but obviously knowing what you want to say and share is what's most important.
I think everybody gets caught up in the idea that they've got to be a comedian and make people laugh, but that's not necessarily always the way and you don't have to do that in order to make a good speech either.
It's simply because in this country we're not used to public speaking so much and it's that idea of having to do that, which can give the jitters. You've just got to find what makes you tick in terms of not getting caught up in that space mentally...and you'll probably find after a drink or two, it's easy, because you're actually going to talk about things that you know and matter to you, like your wife, your family and your friends.
Do not worry about making mistakes, or delivering a word perfect speech, if you do that, great, but it can also come across as wooden, and if you mess up here and there, it'll just feel a bit more real, especially if you use those moments as a trigger to laugh at yourself.
Good luck! :) |  | | |
| Grooms Speeches on 23:26 - Jun 15 with 1763 views | DanVanDyke |
Loads of good advice on here, but the best is that nobody at the wedding wants you to fail (if they do, you mucked up on the invites!) so they will be rooting for you and you can feed off their energy and support. It has to be your call on whether to prepare or wing it. My job is public speaking so I was comfortable going ad hoc but if you're not so confident, plan the speech, rehearse lots and have a few key notes on hand to keep you on track. Saves the shaking paper and helps you have some eye contact with the room.
You have the easiest speech, it's essentially an exercise in thanking everyone and telling your wife how amazing and gorgeous she is. Don't force the jokes, if you're writing it and one comes to you, go for it. But nothing too offensive. You're also sandwiched between the two 'good' speeches so don't worry about length, aim for 5 minutes tops. Give some flowers out to mother and mother in law if they've been helpful in the run up, breaks it up and you can get your wife involved. Mine liked that cos they don't get a speech and can feel a bit left out, if such a thing is possible. Use the comment 'my wife and I', everyone will cheer which will boost your confidence and ease the nerves, and loathe as I am to disagree with Neil...eat before speeches. You'll actually enjoy the food, which is at least two matches out of your season ticket fund, and stops you nervously drinking during the meal.
I gave my former sister in law away and drank like a fish in the build up, didn't touch my food and whilst I pulled it off, it was a close run thing. I paid for it later and was sent home early! Whereas when I got married last year we had the speeches before the meal, other speakers appreciated it, I was much more sober and enjoyed it more.
You'll do great...good luck.
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| Grooms Speeches on 06:03 - Jun 16 with 1753 views | DylanP |
Speak from the heart.
Everyone loves the bride and groom that day. Mild jibes are great. Insults are crap.
So, start with something mildly funny that gives the groom a little stick and then say how great he is and how wonderful the bride is and then raise your glass. Nuff said.
If it gets past 3-4 minutes it is too long. Remember, nobody came to see you speak.
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| Grooms Speeches on 08:48 - Jun 16 with 1739 views | WeaverQPR |
Get all the women to stand up with their hands in the air, get all blokes to stand up hands in the air but with palms together, you then take a picture of everyone stating that regardless of how the speech goes you have photographic evidence that you got a standing ovation. |  |
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| Grooms Speeches on 08:25 - Jul 5 with 1369 views | Jennie123 |
Ah I can understand you. I'm not used to speaking in public, I'm quite shy. But maybe it's true that practice makes perfect...Anyway, I've recently found this article https://www.poptop.uk.com/blog/groom-speech-getting-it-right/ that may be of much help for you, because there are many tips on how to write a groom speech. Good luck! | | | |
| Grooms Speeches on 09:02 - Jul 5 with 1327 views | Dorse |
Two words: interpretive dance. |  |
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| Grooms Speeches on 09:04 - Jul 5 with 1324 views | toboboly |
Useful timing this thread... |  |
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| Grooms Speeches on 10:01 - Jul 5 with 1284 views | PlanetHonneywood |
I’d really recommend you know your audience.
First time I was BM, my mate works in the City. So my speech was suitably risqué, the highlight being a joke comparing sex in a marriage to the continents of the world: sex in your 60s is like Australia; you know where it is, but do you really want to go down there?
Any way, the City types lapped it up and it went off like a Chinese NewYear. Accordingly, when I was best man again a few weeks later, I thought I’d roll with the winning formula of before. Utter disaster; death by a thousand silences!!
So know your audience, and no yourself and don’t try to present in any other style. But also, most folks are on your side for a BM speech, so there’s a lot of goodwill.
Enjoy it...and remember, you’ve got first dibs on the bridesmaids!!
EDIT: I just seen you said groom. Totally ignore the above,especially the bit about bridesmaids! [Post edited 5 Jul 2019 10:02]
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| Grooms Speeches on 10:36 - Jul 5 with 1268 views | Toast_R |
| Grooms Speeches on 09:04 - Jul 5 by toboboly |
Useful timing this thread... |
I was gonna say, just celebrated our 6th anniversary last Saturday... 2 kids later. | | | |
| Grooms Speeches (n/t) on 10:44 - Jul 5 with 1255 views | Mick_S |
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| Grooms Speeches on 12:33 - Jul 5 with 1212 views | robith |
The main role for the groom is to thank people. So make an exhaustice list, have a slightly bemused tone, go for the cheap pop of "and now i'd like to talk about ......my wife!!!!!!!!" and you'll be grand
upbeat, positive and genteel and you'll fly through it! |  | | |
| Grooms Speeches on 19:35 - Jul 5 with 1119 views | PBLOCK |
Grooms speech is fairly easy to be fair. Everyone is rooting for you.
Most important thing is to do your thank you’d tell your wife how wonderful she is / looks. Thanks to your parents her parents. Wish everyone to have a great day on what is such a fantastic occasion
Done
Would echo the doing speeches after people have had some food. We did ours prior to desert so people had a bit of a break but had been fed few drinks etc. Have been to some weddings where speeches are done first and all you can think is that you’re starving and want a glass of wine. While some best man tells ‘in’ jokes 99% don’t get. You want everyone to be happy and suitably fed and watered.
I got married in Summer 2014. And my opening grooms speech was something along the lines of
There are days in your life that you always dream about You see other people experience it and want it so much. Then finally that one person turns up and allows you to experience it. And do you know what. When it happens it makes you realise it’s far better than that. It really is better than your wildest dreams. It can make you feel things you only thought were possible for others
So let’s raise a toast
To Bobby Zamora and Rangers winning at Wembley!!!
We are still married!! | | | |
| Grooms Speeches on 20:02 - Jul 5 with 1112 views | qprxtc |
I did it once for my best mate years ago. He got married in Ireland and I had to go to my cousins wedding the next day in Cornwall so had no sleep for two days.
I was absolutely sh1tting it the whole day leading up to it and cannot remember anything of what i I said to this day. Just the relief when it was over and the wonderful alcohol after.
I was told i good after but not sure if they were being kind or meant it. Never want to do it again though doubt I’ll be asked again.
Advice? None really beyond not worrying about it too much and keep it brief.
Good luck. |  | | |
| Grooms Speeches on 20:15 - Jul 5 with 1102 views | BazzaInTheLoft |
So why do you call yourself ToastR?
Good luck. |  | | |
| Grooms Speeches on 21:44 - Jul 5 with 1074 views | Sir_Chops |
| Grooms Speeches on 08:50 - Jun 14 by WinchestR |
As long as you don't do what I did and get your new sister-in-law's name wrong you will be fine. |
No... I was so nervous I got my wife's name wrong as I made a toast at the start. Called her by her maiden name. And as I tried to correct myself everyone fell about laughing (thankfully her included).
It cut right through the ice. I relaxed right into it after that!! |  | | |
| Grooms Speeches on 22:10 - Jul 5 with 1062 views | Esox_Lucius |
| Grooms Speeches on 20:15 - Jul 5 by BazzaInTheLoft |
So why do you call yourself ToastR?
Good luck. |
He lives in a town where there is a horse racing stadium, near Northampton? |  |
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| Grooms Speeches on 23:24 - Jul 5 with 1038 views | Lblock |
For some reason I was pony’ing it for mine.... and I think that’s because I ended up OVWR prepping
Loved our day
So many QPR fans under one roof it was almost “an end”
I did all the usual balls then went into-
“I’ll never forget the first night I met my wife....
I looked across the dance floor in the club
There was this vision of lovelinesss..
(Pause for ahhhhh’s from the ladies)
She was fit
A blonde bombshell I couldn’t take my eyes off of...
Classy mover
So I tried to move closer and smelt as gorgeous as she looked
(Pause for ahhhhh’s from the ladies)
I moved in.....
And then....
Standing right behind her was this lagged up loudmouth with a bottle of Bud in each hand who some 20 odd years later I’ve ended up marrying.....
(Pause for you vvanker from the ladies)
But ain’t I chose right ladies and gents?! Please be upstanding and raise your glasses to the love of my life.... my wife!!!”
Went okay
There’s more but this thread is an old one so.... |  |
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