| Good intentions 00:17 - Feb 1 with 634 views | stainrods_elbow |
The road to hell is paved with 'em, as the saying goes, as I rediscovered this week (and had my nose rubbed in it for good measure).
Which set me thinking about the likes of, say, Alan Mullery, Richard Thompson, Chris Wright, Tony Fernandes, and Gareth Ainsworth. All of them had (I believe) good intentions - they surely didn't rock up at the Rangers thinking 'how are were going to f*ck this club over?' - but all of them created, in a remarkable variety of ways, QPR hell on earth!
Passion makes you lonely - or worse! By contrast, a former partner once told me the reason she'd been so successful in her job (as a librarian at a national library) was because 'I don't care too much about it'.
What's the answer if you're on the passionate/misunderstood side of life (like all the best people imo) and can't/don't want to change?
1. Examine one's Motivations (for ego/power drives)?
All well and good, but sometimes the problem is as much the manipulations of others.
2. Consider the 'Law of Unintended Consequences'?
I.e. Realise that you will also feel/be misunderstood by people who are arrogant enough to think they've got your number.
3. Listen More, Prescribe Less?
Imposing 'help' without understanding people's limitations/blind spots can make things worse. People know (or think they know) their own needs best. The problem, here, is that, equally, sometimes we see people better than they see themselves. In which case, we should prescribe more, and listen less.
4. Embrace Nuance Over Self-Righteousness?
The world, and people, are not black and white, unless you're a fundamentalist, cult leader, or self-divided idiot. Acting from a position of moral absolutism can lead to rigid, harmful decisions.
5. Adapt and Course-Correct ?
If something isn’t working, admit it and change direction rather than doubling down. (But bear in mind, some people won't allow you to evolve whatever you do (see 4).)
6. Recognise Others' Limits?
You can't 'fix 'everything/everyone, nor should you try. Allow some things to unfold without your passion/intervention. In other words, give yourself a break!
7. Act With, Not For?
Empower rather than impose. Outcomes should arise collaboratively, not paternalistically. (This depends on people's capacity for self-honesty, however.)
Any more for any more?
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| Good intentions on 00:23 - Feb 1 with 571 views | QuillPenRiot |
Well being from America I’m familiar with the double-down tactic that’s proven successful in modern era politics
My favorite though is the embrace of the tenet that life is absurd, it’s completely inexplicable by rational means yet being human I can’t help but try. This also explains my choice of football club |  | | |
| Good intentions on 02:09 - Feb 1 with 491 views | numptydumpty |
It's very rare that anyone is 100% evil.
Hitler, Stalin, Putin, Saddam Hussein - open to debate.
But your average person wants for a decent existence, a reason for being and potentially a significant other and a few others that they feel comfortable with.
Then, a few activities that keep them sane !!!!
But if your passion is following some dumb ass team in W12, then i am sorry to say this all goes out the window, as it can frustrate, it can anger, but just sometimes, it helps all the other things fall into place.
Keep believing in life and eventually a great many decent things come to bear.
But uncontrollables that's down to others.
We can deal with our own lack, but the influence on a poxy little football team in W12 is not and never will be until I come back to QPR and sort you boys out.
The names Beale. Michael Beale !!!!!! |  |
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| Good intentions on 02:17 - Feb 1 with 481 views | acricketer |
People will always let you down. Trust no-one, say nothing. |  | | |
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