| kids and grand kids.... 22:53 - Jan 27 with 902 views | qpr_1968 |
what age did you let your daughter/son have a mobile...
and was you happy letting your teenage son/daughter going to house parties more than a mile away.
my grandson is going to one next saturday, starts 7 until midnight.
my daughter is scared out her wits.....
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| kids and grand kids.... on 23:57 - Jan 27 with 811 views | PunteR |
Perfectly normal to be concerned for your kids going to parties. All part of the fun of being a parent. It's even better when you have to be their taxi for the night.
My kids have all had phones from a young age, that's just how it is nowadays. |  |
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| kids and grand kids.... on 00:27 - Jan 28 with 792 views | Boston |
Eldest - the Young Master Boston, now 35, at 13.
Middle - the eldest girl, 32, when 12.
Youngest - girl, 26, was 8 yrs old.
Not smart phones though. | |
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| kids and grand kids.... on 00:27 - Jan 28 with 790 views | numptydumpty |
Well i remember my sisters kid playing games on a tablet/ipad at around age 30 months and that was 15 years ago.
I think 12 or 13 is an age when lot of kids have mobiles. Maybe to start with for messaging or calls.
It is possible to restrict certain social media access and also adult sites on the Internet, as a parent, you can set this up and also you can limit usage ie time per day as most kids obviously clearly nassively over use technology today - like we all do tbf.
There is software and apps around that can monitor usage and also there are even more extreme ways of monitoring in that you can know the location of the phone at any moment in time.
I guess this is a good thing but my partners daughter, she used this monitoring app on her ex boyfriend, hence why I think he is now the ex partner !!!
You can Google for all of the above. There are ways to be safe and for parents to feel they have some control but it is a wild wild west out there on the wild wide Web, so hope it all goes ok.
I think it's important to allow some access as all their mates will have and denial could lead to an extremely disgruntled child / teenager !!!
Some compromise with some control is probably the best way forward |  |
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| kids and grand kids.... on 00:31 - Jan 28 with 782 views | PunteR |
Beware of Snapchat though. That's my advice. | |
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| kids and grand kids.... on 00:42 - Jan 28 with 770 views | numptydumpty |
| kids and grand kids.... on 00:31 - Jan 28 by PunteR |
Beware of Snapchat though. That's my advice. |
The messages disappear after few minutes so harder to monitor on Snapchat but used to be for younger people.
WhatsApp messages stay as they do on messenger and normal texting, emails etc.
Facebook for 40s and older. Instagram under 30s. Tik Tok teenagers. X The Trump Family
Multitude of dating sites / apps, don't think it's allowed for under 18s.. But romance scams the worst. [Post edited 28 Jan 0:43]
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| kids and grand kids.... on 08:34 - Jan 28 with 625 views | GaryBannister86 |
As the poster above says, all part of being a parent. Very difficult to say no and make them not "fit in", but also worrying. How about making a deal that "find a friend" has to be on their phone? Always made us feel a little bit better.
On the other hand, plenty of positives in being out and about and socialising rather than inside gaming all the time, which is what 99% of kids seem to do. |  | | |
| kids and grand kids.... on 08:44 - Jan 28 with 590 views | Rangersw12 |
Got 3 kids . 18 , 15 & 9
I'm sure the older 2 had a phone by year 6 and the youngest hasn't got one yet .
As for house parties we never stopped them doing anything as long as we knew where they were and who with .
They agreed to have a tracker on their phones called life 360 so when they're out we know where they are and can easily be contacted .
End of the day it can be scary but you just have to trust them to make the right decisions .
They are far better behaved than I used to be at their age as I was going to trance do's and taking ridiculous amount of drugs and my parents never knew where I was . [Post edited 28 Jan 8:49]
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| kids and grand kids.... on 09:28 - Jan 28 with 495 views | PBLOCK |
Our eldest is Year 6 and got a mobile for her birthday in November. Tesco mobile job not an IPhone but good for calls texts and WhatsApp
She has started walking to school with a friend of hers (about ten mins away) and the phone has a tracker app on it and she has to call or message me or the Mrs when she gets to school
Not allowed Snapchat Insta Facebook or Twitter
Youngest is Year 5 and turns 10 in the summer so he will get the same then
Phone has to stay down in the kitchen on charge at night and we have her password (Mrs might have a quick look once a week or so but obviously there is privacy to be respected)
Technology is here to stay so trying to give them some responsibility is a good thing if they mess it up then it’ll get drawn back
Similarly my lad has a PS5 he’s allowed to live chat while playing but only with friends from school / football team etc but not allowed to add anyone he or we don’t know
It’s a tough call and I think very much depends on the kid as an individual some are more wise than others
Mate if mine won’t let his kids do any of the above and they are the same age. Not sure who is right or wrong but there comes a time when you have to let go a bit I think
Set the ground rules and expectations, if they don’t do as asked it gets revoked
Most kids are pretty sensible but also need a bit of a watch just as a bit of help I think as it is all new and they can get carried away as we all did as kids | | | |
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| kids and grand kids.... on 09:50 - Jan 28 with 443 views | derbyhoop |
| kids and grand kids.... on 00:27 - Jan 28 by numptydumpty |
Well i remember my sisters kid playing games on a tablet/ipad at around age 30 months and that was 15 years ago.
I think 12 or 13 is an age when lot of kids have mobiles. Maybe to start with for messaging or calls.
It is possible to restrict certain social media access and also adult sites on the Internet, as a parent, you can set this up and also you can limit usage ie time per day as most kids obviously clearly nassively over use technology today - like we all do tbf.
There is software and apps around that can monitor usage and also there are even more extreme ways of monitoring in that you can know the location of the phone at any moment in time.
I guess this is a good thing but my partners daughter, she used this monitoring app on her ex boyfriend, hence why I think he is now the ex partner !!!
You can Google for all of the above. There are ways to be safe and for parents to feel they have some control but it is a wild wild west out there on the wild wide Web, so hope it all goes ok.
I think it's important to allow some access as all their mates will have and denial could lead to an extremely disgruntled child / teenager !!!
Some compromise with some control is probably the best way forward |
13to grandson has had a mobile for well over a year. His dad has heavily restricted how he can use it. |  |
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| kids and grand kids.... on 09:54 - Jan 28 with 428 views | 1BobbyHazell |
I've got 5 including stepkids aged 18 to 26.
I think they all got phones once they started secondary school. Might be a bit harder to hold off that long now a few years on.
As regards the parties, life etc thing...
We are, of course, all wired differently but I remember making a conscious decision quite early on in parenting to NOT expect the worse to happen to them and to know that they had to live their lives and have their bumps and lessons on the way. God knows we all did!
So when it came to parties, drink, drugs etc we used to chat about it all with them as they were approaching the age of doing it. Not fear mongering, but more honest discussions about our experiences, what to be careful about and the signs of feeling you might 'need it' too much etc. All tailored to each of their different personalities.
We pretty much let them do what they wanted within reason and they all talked to us about their experiences and didn't feel they had to hide anything (well most things!).
I think it means a lot to the kids to be trusted and my experience is that they want to repay that by being trustworthy and honest (ish!) back. It has also meant that if they are sliding towards a problem in that area it is easy to spot and give advice/support allowing them to build their own self management skills, rather than them being isolated with it.
Still plenty of challenges but that's life.
Completely understandable to be fearful for your kids but I reckon you don't want to pass that on to them too much if you can.
"Drugs are bad, mmmkay" |  | | |
| kids and grand kids.... on 10:31 - Jan 28 with 372 views | PunteR |
| kids and grand kids.... on 09:54 - Jan 28 by 1BobbyHazell |
I've got 5 including stepkids aged 18 to 26.
I think they all got phones once they started secondary school. Might be a bit harder to hold off that long now a few years on.
As regards the parties, life etc thing...
We are, of course, all wired differently but I remember making a conscious decision quite early on in parenting to NOT expect the worse to happen to them and to know that they had to live their lives and have their bumps and lessons on the way. God knows we all did!
So when it came to parties, drink, drugs etc we used to chat about it all with them as they were approaching the age of doing it. Not fear mongering, but more honest discussions about our experiences, what to be careful about and the signs of feeling you might 'need it' too much etc. All tailored to each of their different personalities.
We pretty much let them do what they wanted within reason and they all talked to us about their experiences and didn't feel they had to hide anything (well most things!).
I think it means a lot to the kids to be trusted and my experience is that they want to repay that by being trustworthy and honest (ish!) back. It has also meant that if they are sliding towards a problem in that area it is easy to spot and give advice/support allowing them to build their own self management skills, rather than them being isolated with it.
Still plenty of challenges but that's life.
Completely understandable to be fearful for your kids but I reckon you don't want to pass that on to them too much if you can.
"Drugs are bad, mmmkay" |
Some sound parenting there. We've been open and honest about all things drink, drugs and sex related during the teenage years.
They are going to make mistakes, that's how they learn. You cant bubble wrap them and expect they will just obey. They wont. Having an open and honest relationship and being approachable as a parent is the most important thing. Otherwise they will just do things behind your back anyway. | |
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